To Overcome Fear?
How can you overcome fear, to overcoming fear
and become fearless?
let us begin by going through this simple exercise.
Now, name me the most scariest ghost movie you
have watched; the one that has greatly frightened
you, haunting you with scary images and imagination
after watching it. Good! Now go get hold of the
disk of that movie. And what are we going to do
with it? We are going to watch it of course and
I want you to keep watching it everyday for a
week or so.
now, after watching it so many times, what is
your comment on the show again? I bet you be so
bored of the show after repeatedly watching it.
And now, is it still as scary as it was the first
time you watched it? Definitely not I am sure.
Perhaps, you are even laughing at the stupidity
of how the ghost looks and the way it walks, a
scary movie turn comedy for you?
well, that is exact idea! The best way to overcome
fear is to jump into it and face it, feel the
fear, be in touch with fear, live it and let fear
be part of you. And just like repeatedly watching
the scary movie, to get so used to fear that you
will conquer your fear without you even knowing
it. The more you confront your fear, the more
comfortable with fear you will get each time and
when you get more and more comfortable, that fear
of yours will just naturally disappear. To name
an example, for those of you who have been on
stage before, you would have understood that the
more you go onto stage, the lesser the fear will
be each time. No doubt that you may be nervous
but once you are up there on the stage, the rhythm
will just slowly kick in. In fact, they are many
who at the end of the day, actually look forward
to their next stage performance or presentation
and that is because they know they can perform
and do better the next time.
what exactly is fear? To understand, fear is afterall
just an emotional feel of uneasiness of ours.
In short, we self created fear. To begin with,
fear wasn't even there till we actually created
it! And what is the reason behind? One of the
key causes of fear is uncertainty, we fear the
undesirable outcome of things; we fear that things
will not go in the way we want them to be and
we begin to anticipate and imagine the scary and
ugly side of things. But to just ask back yourself,
has things really happened?
is just the problem with many of us; the bad habits
of ours as human, to have the tendency to think
negatively. Before things could really fail, many
of us have already in our mind sentenced ourselves
failure. And to be actually having such negative
thoughts of failure, it is just very natural that
fear would arise within us. But again, may I just
ask, is this fear really necessary? It is really
necessary to fear for what that has yet to happened?
No! This is definitely not the way life should
be, this is just too tiring a way to be living
your life. An enjoyable one is how your life should
instead be, isn't it? Think about it. Have you
been unknowingly giving yourself too much stress,
unnecessarily fearing too much for what you shouldn't
this. In life, there is never a thing known as
the perfect; there can never be a perfect outcome.
No matter how good the result is, there is just
bound to be still flaw to it. Even the wisest
ruler can err in his judgment; even the strongest
army can be defeated. So to be saying, there is
absolutely nothing wrong with failure. Instead,
you should be ready to face and accept failure,
to learn from your mistake and correct them. And
the very first mistake to correct now is to stop
fearing for the unnecessary, to stop fearing for
what that has yet to even happen.
see, every event that happened in life is interrelated
in one-way or another. Just like the sun that
affects the healthy growth of the plants, your
thought is going to very much affect your action
and your action will ultimately affect next the
final outcome of things. Think positive and you
shall react positively, think negative and you
shall react negatively; this is natural human
to be talking about fear, what would fear be associated
with? Fear would bring about the growth of courage.
It is actually with fear that brought about courage
and wisdom; it is with the experience of fear
that we been through that we grow to be wiser.
Well, I don't suppose you would stupidly jump
into a pool of fire? And that is because you understand
from your experience of fear that fire will hurt
you. But then again, if we have allowed ourselves
to be frightened off just because we were burned
once, we would not have gone on to understand
and enjoy the many other benefits of the use of
fire which has significantly helped improve the
quality of our living.
similarly, if you allowed fear to stop you from
exploring life, there is no way you could ever
learn; there is no way you can ever progress in
life. And I am sure that this is not the way you
want your life to be? Now, understand this. Fear
is there not as your enemy; fear existed only
because you created them. The greatest enemy is
ultimately still you yourself. Nobody but you
can stop you from achieving what you want in life.
Well, to be thinking and planning ahead is good
but to be fearing ahead and bring yourself down
is not. To work to the best of our capabilities,
that is what we should be doing. But if you were
to self create that obstacle of fear, do you think
you can achieve that? Have you actually allow
yourself the chance to work to your fullest capabilities?
Now, if you can create fear, you have the power
to similarly destroy fear.
let me just ask you this last question. Now, why
is it that you think you are actually walking
and running on your twos now? Well, that is because
you, as a baby back then, were able to overcome
and conquer your fear. Despite facing uncertainty
and repeatedly falling and hurting yourself, you
courageously picked yourself up each time never
giving up learning to walk till you triumphantly
succeed. And if you can do it back then, why is
it you can't do it now?
to befriend fear and let fear be a pushing force
to push you on in life or to give in to fear and
let fear overrun your life with failures, it is
your call. Think about it. Fear and courage lies
just between a line, which side of the line are
you going to be in?
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